As you know, I was supposed to have a date today with Stan. We had planned to meet at a local chain restaurant. Now this was attempt number two at a second date since he had cancelled our Dave & Buster’s date because he didn’t wake up early enough to leave us any time to hang out before he had to go to his night class. Like last time, he said he would text me in the morning and let me know what time we could meet. He did just that and we decided to meet at 1:00 p.m.
At this point, I went to go take a shower. When I got out of the shower I saw that he text messaged me saying that he was running late because he was paying some bills and he found a problem with one of them so he decided to call and get it straightened out. So basically he was running late because he got tied up on the phone and hadn’t even gotten himself showered and ready to go yet. This was at 12:30 p.m. Deciding not to make a big deal about it, I told him to text me when he was ready to leave. Shortly after, he messaged me again saying that our plans weren’t going to work out because he was still figuring things out with his bill and it was
bothering him so much that he just had to take care of it. Needless to say, I was pretty pissed off. I had showered, gotten dressed, did my hair and was about 2 minutes away from putting on my make-up when he cancelled. I told him I was pissed and that he had picked a really inappropriate time to take care of his bills considering he had promised to meet me for lunch. Long story short, I let him have it for cancelling on me. He apologized profusely saying that he made a huge mistake, blah, blah, blah. I told him that since I happen to like him, that I would give him one more chance to get it right because if any other guy cancelled on me twice I would have given them the boot. Sooooo, he said he might stop by and see me while I’m at work tomorrow and maybe we can hang out for a little bit when I get off. And he promised to take me out to lunch on Saturday for sure. So I guess I’ll just have to wait and see what happens.
It sucks, but sadly this sort of thing happens all the time with online dating. I’ve lost track of how many times its happened to me. I think the trick is that you have to learn how to figure out who is actually sorry that they had to cancel and is actually worth your time and who is just playing games. Then you can decide who gets another
chance to make things right. I feel like I “click” too well with Stan to kick him to the curb at the moment, but he’s on thin ice.
On another note, I’ve been texting and sending a ton of messages with a guy on Match.com. He’s 29 years old, lives close by and is an engineer. For the sake of this blog, I’ll call him Jason. Jason seems really nice and we share a passion for Philly sports and travelling. We’re planning to meet up as soon as our schedules allow. Hopefully we can work something out for next week.
That’s all for now. I just wanted to give you all a quick update. I’ll report back after my date with Stan. That is, if it actually happens. Here’s hoping it does!