The world of dating has changed drastically over the last decade or so. Young people today are very focused on themselves instead of forming relationships with others. This is not necessarily a bad thing, as we all have to figure out who we are and what makes us happy before we can fully share our lives with someone else. But this phase of a young person’s life is taking longer to establish these days due to the poor economy with its lack of job opportunities. This has lead to many young college grads being unemployed and still living with their parents instead of venturing out and beginning an independent lifestyle. Living this way, it’s almost impossible to imagine bringing another person (let alone possibly starting a family) into your life. Young people are often so busy with other things that dating ends up on the back burner. In addition, technology has taken over our lives and dating is no exception to this. With texting, e-mail and instant messaging, face to face contact with another human being in a social setting rarely happens anymore. The culmination of all these factors has lead to an explosion in the number of people who are venturing into the world of online dating. Sadly, I am one of these people.
I’ve had a profile profile on Plenty of Fish for a few years now. It’s a free dating site with pretty basic features as far as searching and messaging go. I’ve used the site off and on, pretty much when I have the time to dedicate to it, and have had little success. I’ve been on many dates with nothing coming out of any of them. Usually not even a second date. I’ve received messages from a few weirdos and have seen more than my fair share of odd requests. I’ve had great dates where I’ve liked the guy and then he disappears off the radar entirely with no explanation at all. Many people suggested that I wasn’t having any luck because the website is free and people don’t take it seriously. Soooooo, after deliberating over my options for a while, I decided to fork over some money (90 bucks for 6 months) in my quest to meet someone and join Match.com.
I’ve been on Match.com for 3 days now. I’ve sent out 8 messages, 28 winks (the equivalent of Facebook “poke”), added 21 guys to my favorites list, sent a comment about a guy’s date idea, and liked 1 guy’s photo. Now granted I have received and equivalent number of messages, winks, etc, do you think any of them were from the guys I reached out to? No! Of course not! Why? God, I wish I knew. Three days in and I’m already anticipating being able to take advantage of the sites 6 month guarantee.
Anyway, after talking to various people about my online dating disasters, I’ve come to realize that there are a lot of other people out there who are going through the same thing and I thought maybe we could commiserate together. Not to mention that mixed in with the frustration are some hilarious stories that are definitely worth sharing. So I would like to officially invite you to join me in my online dating adventures throughout the coming year. As I communicate with guys online and meet them in person, I’ll share my experiences, adventures and misadventures with all of you. Keep in mind that I am still taking this all seriously as I am actually trying to meet someone to be in a relationship with. Therefore, I won’t be mentioning anyone’s personal information, anything that would hurt or embarrass someone (including myself) or any other more personal tidbits of my interactions with my dates. My intention is to share my experiences, to give you the gist of how my online interactions and dates go. Think of it like that movie “How to Lose A Guy in 10 Days”, but without anyone getting hurt or taken advantage of in the end. Oh, and I’m trying o keep the guy, not lose him.
Stay tuned for my next Dating Diaries post when I’ll share with you the content of my dating profiles and what I am looking for in a guy.